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It feels like I’ve been waiting forever, and I just don’t understand why God hasn’t brought my husband into my life yet. I’ve been doing my best to live right, to follow His will, and not to force anything in my own strength. I stay committed to my faith, attend church regularly, and truly try to walk in obedience. But despite all of that, something still feels… off.
There’s someone I like, but it often seems like men like him aren’t drawn to someone like me. It’s hard not to feel discouraged. I’m doing all I can to wait patiently and trust God’s timing, but the wait is getting heavy. I can’t help but wonder if there’s something wrong with me, or if I’m missing something He wants me to see. 😟
Answer💡
Dear Sister,
Your heart is seen. God hears your prayers, your tears, and your longing. Waiting on the Lord—especially when it concerns love and companionship—is not easy. But let me encourage you: your waiting is not in vain.
First, know this: God is not punishing you, nor is He withholding good from you out of cruelty or oversight. In Psalm 84:11, it says,
“No good thing will He withhold from those who walk uprightly.”
You are doing your best to walk uprightly—and He sees that. If your husband hasn’t arrived yet, it may be that God is still writing the story in a way that’s for your ultimate good, not your temporary relief.
Second, the weariness and confusion you’re feeling are real—and you’re not alone in feeling them. But God’s timing is not ours. Ecclesiastes 3:11 reminds us,
“He has made everything beautiful in its time.”
Not your time. His time. And when He does it, it will be beautiful.
Third, regarding the kind of men you like: it may feel like they overlook you, but know this—God is not limited by types or trends. The man He has for you will see you the way God sees you: beautiful, whole, and full of purpose.
In 1 Samuel 16:7, when Samuel was choosing a king, God said,
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“People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
The right man—your man—will be led by God to look at your heart, not just appearances.
Lastly, your feelings of discouragement are valid, but don’t let them define your identity. You are not forgotten. You are not overlooked. You are not broken. In Isaiah 49:15, God says,
“Can a woman forget her nursing child… Surely they may forget, yet I will not forget you.”
Take heart. Keep showing up for God, but also allow yourself to rest in Him. You are not earning love by being “good enough”—you already are deeply loved, as you are. When it is time, your husband will find you walking in purpose—not in anxiety.
Keep trusting. Keep hoping. Keep preparing—not just for a man, but for what God wants to birth in you in this season. He’s not done.
With love and hope,
In Christ 💛 Ya Girl Renae
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