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I’m a man, and I’ll be the first to tell you I’m not perfect. I fall short every single day. But one thing I’ll never understand is why men—especially married ones with families—think it’s okay to take their wives and kids to WingHouse. That’s not a family outing. That’s a slap in the face to the woman who stands by you.

Posted By: Robert

You know, there are certain things in this life that just make no sense to me. And one of them is seeing a man—married, with children—pull up to a place like WingHouse with his family in tow. I don’t care how good the wings are or how cheap the beer is, there’s something wrong about that picture. Maybe it’s old-fashioned thinking, maybe it’s morals, but to me, it’s about respect. And too many men today have forgotten what that word even means.

I was sitting in my car the other day, parked across from a Walmart, and I saw this family—husband, wife, couple of kids—getting out of their car. They were laughing, looked happy enough, until I saw where they were headed. WingHouse. I sat there shaking my head, thinking to myself, “Man, what are you doing?” Because that’s not just a restaurant. That’s a place built around the idea of women being objectified for tips. It’s not family-friendly. It’s not a place for your wife and kids. It’s a place for single men, maybe a group of guys watching a game—not a husband bringing his wife and children to eat chicken wings under neon lights surrounded by barely dressed waitresses.

And before anybody says I’m being judgmental, let me be clear—I’m not saying I’m perfect. I’m not above anyone. I’ve made my share of mistakes. But some things just show a complete lack of awareness and self-control. A woman gives you her best years, bears your children, takes care of your home, stands by you through your storms—and this is how you repay her? By bringing her into an environment that disrespects everything she represents as your partner? Come on, man.

What bothers me most is that some men don’t even see it as disrespect. They think it’s harmless. “It’s just food,” they say. No, it’s not just food—it’s about what it symbolizes. You’re showing your wife that her comfort doesn’t matter. You’re showing your kids that objectifying women is normal. You’re sending silent messages without even realizing it. And those messages shape how your sons grow up to treat women and how your daughters learn to expect treatment from men.

I heard this woman, Renee, talking online the other day about value—how people don’t value what they have anymore. That hit me hard. Because she’s right. Somewhere along the way, we stopped respecting our blessings. We treat the people who love us like they’re disposable, and we confuse entertainment for quality time. Taking your family to WingHouse isn’t bonding—it’s lazy and careless. It’s a man not thinking about what message he’s sending his household.

Listen, I’m not trying to preach. I know we all fall short. But there’s a difference between making a mistake and living in a pattern of disrespect. If you’re doing this—if you’re that guy bringing your wife and kids into these kinds of places—stop. Do better. Your woman deserves better. Your kids deserve to see you act like a leader, not a fool who doesn’t recognize what he’s got.

Even if you’re not a Christian, this still applies. You don’t have to be religious to have morals. You just have to have some respect. There’s something sacred about family, something worth protecting. And when you take them into environments that degrade women, even subtly, you chip away at that protection.

So to the men reading this, take this from another man who’s far from perfect but still trying to do right—you can be better than this. You can choose places that reflect the respect you have for your wife and kids. You can show your sons what integrity looks like and show your daughters how a real man acts.

Don’t confuse being a “cool dad” or “laid-back husband” with being a man of value. Real men lead with respect, not ego. And if that means skipping the wings and the flashing TVs for a quiet meal where your wife feels loved and your kids feel safe, then that’s what a real man does.