Every time I try to do something great or move forward with my life, I get told it won’t work

Every time I have a business idea or try to move forward with my life and do something great, my spouse is always telling me, “No, it won’t work.” I don’t care if it’s something small or big the reaction is always the same. “It’s not going to happen.” “You’re wasting time.” “You’re dreaming too big.” And honestly, that stuff eats at you after a while. It’s not just about the words; it’s about the constant energy of being told that what you see, what you believe in, somehow doesn’t matter.

But here’s the thing even if it doesn’t work, and even if my ideas seem far-fetched, I should still have the opportunity to try for myself. Let me see if it actually works. Let me fall. Let me learn. Because failing is not the enemy it’s the teacher. You can’t grow if you don’t take chances. You can’t become something better if you’re never allowed to test your own vision.

I feel bad about the situation sometimes, because I know that deep down, I’m just trying to build something meaningful. I’m not trying to be stubborn or defiant I just want to experience life and see what I’m capable of. And I wish more people, especially in relationships, would understand that. It doesn’t matter what you think about the situation. It’s about what that person feels in their heart. If someone has a dream, it’s not your job to crush it. It’s your job to support it, or at least step aside and let them see where it goes.

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The problem is that a lot of people confuse control with support. They think that saying “no” or being overly cautious means they’re being helpful, when in reality, they’re being limiting. That’s manipulation and it’s rooted in fear, pride, or even jealousy. And to be real, I’ve learned that control can be something people consider a form of manipulation from Jezebel.

We talk about the Jezebel spirit all the time, but a lot of people don’t understand what it really looks like in real life. It’s not always about seduction or rebellion. Sometimes, it’s about subtle control that constant voice that tells you what you can’t do, what’s not possible, and why you should stay small. Jezebel doesn’t always come loud and proud. Sometimes it comes dressed as “concern,” or “realism,” or “I just don’t want you to get hurt.”

But the truth is, those words can be poison. Because while they’re pretending to protect you, what they’re really doing is keeping you from stepping into your purpose. I’ve seen it happen too many times — people give up on their calling because someone close to them told them it wasn’t practical. But guess what? Most world-changers didn’t have practical dreams.

And working on this site building something from the ground up — it’s shown me that not everyone will see your vision. And that’s okay. God didn’t give them the vision; He gave it to you. But when people try to take over your decisions or dictate your pace, that’s when you know it’s no longer support it’s control. And if you’re not careful, you’ll start doubting your own instincts because someone else’s voice has become louder than your faith.

So to anyone else who’s dealing with that — keep going. Try it anyway. Even if they roll their eyes, even if they say it won’t work, even if they call you foolish do it anyway. Because at the end of the day, failure builds wisdom. Success builds confidence. But control builds resentment.

And I refuse to live under that anymore.